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demariana I am so done with my dad. He purposely divorced my mom at year 19 so she would not be able to claim any of his military pension. My brother was able to guilt him into giving mom $100 a month for about the past year or so. On 12/24 he called my mom and basically said the check she gets in January will be the last one since he is tightening his belt and she is not family. He does not owe her anything and me and my brother should be taking care of her. That he might match what we give her but if we are not giving anything then he is done. He loses like at least 5 times at much as he gives her every month gambling. Maybe even 10 times as much. I mean he is a gold member and gets free food etc. But he is tightening his belt. He wants to make sure he has stuff to leave when he dies. I am just thinking spend it all you fucker. I really do not care and do not want any of it.
Then on X-mas day he messaged everyone that he was not up for any callers. So I called and talked to him and said ok I will let you know when I drop the gift off at your door. When I got there he was like come on in so I was there for about 20-30 minutes maybe. He smokes and even with his air purifier it was hard in there. I gave him some dunkin donuts coffee and he gave me a tin of shortbread cookies. Whatever.
I sit down and then he starts in about mom and that he is going to stop giving her the $100/month and how she is our responsibility etc etc. I then was like well every week $20 of my check goes directly into her account. His first question after that well does she know??? Who in the fuck would not notice $20 every week being deposited into their bank account? I just blinked and was like of course, I told her I was doing it. Also if I get the new team lead position I will probably increase the amount. Also I drive her to many appointments, and take her out for food at least once a month. The he goes on about how my brother doesn't do anything but like buy paper products. I know my brother can stand up for himself and I will let him do it. I did say it was more than that. My brother has paid for the lawn to be mowed, the oil change and other car things for my mom. When he goes to sam's club he gets her paper products and other things. My brother and sister in law are also trying to figure out how to make it work for our mom to move in with them. When that does happen her money situation will be so much better and he can take that $100/month and shove it where the sun don't shine.
Other than that the rest of the family visits were really nice and relaxing. Mom had us all over and we exchanged gifts. The nieces loved what I got them and mom loved her new clothes. She even said they fit. I am so glad! Clothes are so hard to buy at times. She will need to hem them since she is shrinking.
Jeff and I went out for Chinese food with the roommates and that was alright. Was not as good as it has been in the past. I did enjoy the time with them. Also took my mom some takeout since she did not feel up to going. Jeff and I went and saw Migration on 12/24 which was good. I loved the short before the movie. On 12/23 I was with my other boyfriend and some of his family. I left my gifts for them there and they opened them on 12/25.
All in all it was a nice relaxing 4 days off and dang I hated going back to work today.
Then on X-mas day he messaged everyone that he was not up for any callers. So I called and talked to him and said ok I will let you know when I drop the gift off at your door. When I got there he was like come on in so I was there for about 20-30 minutes maybe. He smokes and even with his air purifier it was hard in there. I gave him some dunkin donuts coffee and he gave me a tin of shortbread cookies. Whatever.
I sit down and then he starts in about mom and that he is going to stop giving her the $100/month and how she is our responsibility etc etc. I then was like well every week $20 of my check goes directly into her account. His first question after that well does she know??? Who in the fuck would not notice $20 every week being deposited into their bank account? I just blinked and was like of course, I told her I was doing it. Also if I get the new team lead position I will probably increase the amount. Also I drive her to many appointments, and take her out for food at least once a month. The he goes on about how my brother doesn't do anything but like buy paper products. I know my brother can stand up for himself and I will let him do it. I did say it was more than that. My brother has paid for the lawn to be mowed, the oil change and other car things for my mom. When he goes to sam's club he gets her paper products and other things. My brother and sister in law are also trying to figure out how to make it work for our mom to move in with them. When that does happen her money situation will be so much better and he can take that $100/month and shove it where the sun don't shine.
Other than that the rest of the family visits were really nice and relaxing. Mom had us all over and we exchanged gifts. The nieces loved what I got them and mom loved her new clothes. She even said they fit. I am so glad! Clothes are so hard to buy at times. She will need to hem them since she is shrinking.
Jeff and I went out for Chinese food with the roommates and that was alright. Was not as good as it has been in the past. I did enjoy the time with them. Also took my mom some takeout since she did not feel up to going. Jeff and I went and saw Migration on 12/24 which was good. I loved the short before the movie. On 12/23 I was with my other boyfriend and some of his family. I left my gifts for them there and they opened them on 12/25.
All in all it was a nice relaxing 4 days off and dang I hated going back to work today.
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Date: 2023-12-27 11:43 am (UTC)