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Today I had a follow up with an ob/gyn doctor. She did not impress me. I had a great relationship with Dr H, but then he up and left. Well, he got married and moved back to Alabama. Damn Him! Then I had an appt with Dr T. I actually had 2 with him. He was easy to talk to, understood where I was coming from and just clicked when I saw him. He had to go and have to have surgery. He should be back in Feb. *fingers crossed* That takes us to today. I went in for a follow up with Dr M about my ultrasound. She said that they could not find anything specifically wrong, nothing abnormal. Ah, ok. I am still having strong and long periods though. I mentioned that Dr T gave me 2 pamphlets and I was leaning more toward the ablation over the IUD. Her next question.... Do you plan to have kids? My answer No. Then she went on with the are you married and that I am still young and might change my mind. She has had others who have changed their minds. I know you are an adult, but are you sure? The only good thing she did mention is that with ablation there is a chance that in 2-3 years since I am young that I could have it happen again. That I had not heard of before. In my head I was thinking... hmm I want to talk to Dr T and find out if that is true or not. The annoying thing was that the room was cold, so I was shaking from cold and alittle bit from nerves. It affected my voice. I did get the prescription I wanted w/o any hassle which was nice. She is also going to see if my insurance will cover the IUD. She has to request it. We shall see. I am slightly hoping that we do not find out till Dr T is back so I can have him do it.

So an ok doctor visit, but nothing that great.

Mind if I rant?

Date: 2006-12-08 08:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] spydielives.livejournal.com
I am sorry I have forgotten how old you are (maybe that is a good thing?), but in general...

I am really annoyed with physicians who question a woman's decision when it comes to that sort of thing. Assuming she has been fully educated of the pros and cons, believe it or not, most women really *can* make decisions for themselves.

As for trying to second guess a future regret, again, if the woman has been educated, it can be reasonably safe to assume that she has thought about that future and what regrets (or not) she might have.

It really isn't a doctor's job to rush right in and do something, but it isn't the doctor's job to second guess a decision either if there is no current medically-compelling reason to. Concern about a future hand-wringing does not count.

Re: Mind if I rant?

Date: 2006-12-08 09:58 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] demariana.livejournal.com
I am 35. She seemed to think that I have a good 5-10 years left to decide if I want kids or not.

Oh, the other thing is that right after she asked if I was married and I answered no, she then said what if I meet someone? I then informed her that I have been with someone over 10 years just not married. *shudder*

Re: Mind if I rant?

Date: 2006-12-08 10:06 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] spydielives.livejournal.com
I don't think I could take that.

At the very least, studies show the risks to the mom (and child) start increasing dramatically at age 35 if it is your first child. The good doctor should know that. Just because a woman is biologically capable of bearing a child into her late 30's and 40's does not mean it is a good idea. Imagine trying to raise a teenager when you are 50!

I have had people look at me oddly when I say I deliberately had my kids young, but I knew then what I was doing. Down's Syndrome has cropped up more than once in my family and there was no way I was going to take the risk.

As for the whole "what if you meet someone? comment - blech. Sounds like the good doctor needs a clue-by-four, and learn how to live in the oughts!

Re: Mind if I rant?

Date: 2006-12-09 10:53 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ladonna-rena.livejournal.com
Imagine trying to raise a teenager when you are 50

Some of us do and hope for that chance.

Re: Mind if I rant?

Date: 2006-12-09 01:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] spydielives.livejournal.com
Imagine trying to raise a teenager when you are 50

I know that my choices are not other's choices. I should not have knocked other potential parent's dreams.

I am sorry.

Date: 2006-12-08 10:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] minikin.livejournal.com
You've been through the ringer on this one. It seems to me like you should be able to get a been-there-had-the-gimme-the-#%*&^%-procedure card or something.

Date: 2006-12-08 10:28 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] minikin.livejournal.com
had-the-TALK-etc. sorry

Date: 2006-12-09 04:03 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sweeterin.livejournal.com
I had a great office in Richmond. It was worth the drive. It was Dr. Gordon, right next to EKU and behind the Winn-Dixie. They were always very helpful and non-intrusive when it came to making decisions. And if you ever need anything they would always recommend alternative options to surgery, etc.

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