I think its good for those you are angry at to hear that you are angry at them. To let others get away with bad behavior is to encourage them to continue their behavior (because there is nothing wrong). How can someone learn its not nice to hurt someone else, if they never hear what they did hurt? They will just do the same thing again and again, anyway.
But screaming at them (like some parents do) doesn't always help either, in my opinion. Sometimes it can, but sometimes gently pulling the person aside and saying "hey, that was out of line and won't be tolerated in the future" is a nice adult response.
Just my two cents (and a review of a recent therapy session... speaking up for myself instead of sitting there feeling victimized [again] is a new skill I am working on)
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Date: 2001-11-07 06:03 am (UTC)But screaming at them (like some parents do) doesn't always help either, in my opinion. Sometimes it can, but sometimes gently pulling the person aside and saying "hey, that was out of line and won't be tolerated in the future" is a nice adult response.
Just my two cents (and a review of a recent therapy session... speaking up for myself instead of sitting there feeling victimized [again] is a new skill I am working on)